Is there someone in your life who has hurt you? Is it time for you to let go of the hurt and what it is doing to you?
Almost everyone has been hurt by the words or actions of someone else whether in the past or currently. It can leave you feeling heavy, a victim, shamed, feeling cheated and even guilty. We often persecute ourselves over and over again when someone has wronged us by reliving it in our thoughts, telling others about it, holding onto the hurt and pain.
So the secret to your own personal freedom is forgiveness.
Forgiveness does not excuse what the other person did. It does say that what they did is okay or acceptable. You don’t forgive to free the other person. You forgive to free yourself from pain caused by holding anger, resentment, disappointment, sadness and hurt. Forgiveness offers you health, happiness and inner peace. You want to forgive, not to let someone else off the hook, but to give yourself peace and create the space to move forward in a more expansive way.. Forgiveness is your gift to yourself.
Sometimes the person you most need to forgive is yourself.
This can be far more difficult to do. I have discovered that often underlying our sense of value, is a critical voice directed inward. So many of my clients have been struggling in some area because of a perception that they don’t deserve what they want or have. Underlying this is a deep loathing or blame that they have let others down, not measured up or failed at something.
It is usually for something that was never their responsibility in the first place, nor realistic that they could do this. In my personal and professional experience, I have found that self-forgiveness is the most difficult forgiveness of all and also the most rewarding.
Whether you need to forgive someone else or yourself, please set some time aside and choose to begin your journey through forgiveness into freedom and inner peace by writing a soul letter.
You deserve that and so do the people you love. It is time for you to let go of the pain, disappointment, resentment, sadness and other emotions that are keeping you hostage in some way.
Think of a past relationship where you still feel some pain, sadness, anger, regret – any feelings that continues to linger. If you think of this person, including yourself, and feel any emotions with any intensity whatsoever, you want to do this exercise.
***The soul letter is based on work by John Seeley, M. A. from his book, “Get Unstuck, the Simple Guide to Restart Your Life”***
This letter is only for your eyes, to release and let go of your inner turmoil and pain. So please be honest and allow whatever words, emotions, and feelings need to come out. Let your heart and inner child speak without judgment. Complete the entire process so that you can experience the emotional release that will free you. Allow enough time for this and in a time and place where you will not be disturbed.
This can be very emotional and you may cry. You may scream. You may even laugh. Please allow whatever you feel to be okay. That is part of the process. You are letting out the emotional toxins that have been stored in your body, your cells, your memory, and your mind – allow the voice they seek, and the release so that you can move on with love and joy.
Follow the prompts and continue to write through each section and then move on the next. Please complete the letter at one sitting. It is arranged in specific order to take you from a very low vibration of energy to the highest vibration – that of love. It is not advisable to stop in the middle with emotions hanging on – please continue till the end.
After writing the letter, find a quiet space and read the letter out loud with the intention of letting go and releasing all the energy you may be holding. Read the letter over and over until there is no emotion left. After you finish reading the letter out loud, burn it. LET IT GO. YOU ARE DONE WITH THIS. Enjoy this new sense of peace.